Here are some of the ways you can build resilience in middle age.
Rewrite your story…
Don’t personalize it…
Remember your comebacks…
Take stress breaks…
Go out of your comfort zone…
Read “How to Build Resilience in Midlife” by Tara Parker-Hope in The New York Times
Last night, we were defeated. So what are we going to do with that? We’ll do what we have to do: try to learn from our mistakes and try again. And we’ll keep trying to cultivate curiosity, love, kindness, gratitude, and forgiveness, even when everyone else seems filled with hatred and fear.
Jeremy Adam Smith
Read Smith’s full letter to his son from the day after the 2016 election
To change another to better fit our own ideals is not love; it is domination. Instead, to truly love is to engage joyfully in our differences and to bring out the best in our unique potential — in personal relationships, and in community.
Read the full article, When You Try to Change People, That’s Not Love, It’s Domination, by Broderick Greer, On Being
Read The Dying Art of Disagreement, Bret Stephens, NYTimes, Sep 24, 2017
To say the words, “I agree” — whether it’s agreeing to join an organization, or submit to a political authority, or subscribe to a religious faith — may be the basis of every community.
But to say, I disagree; I refuse; you’re wrong; etiam si omnes — ego non — these are the words that define our individuality, give us our freedom, enjoin our tolerance, enlarge our perspectives, seize our attention, energize our progress, make our democracies real, and give hope and courage to oppressed people everywhere.
“In times of insecurity, communities that look different become convenient scapegoats,” said United Nations Secretary-General António Guterres. “We must resist cynical efforts to divide communities and portray neighbours as ‘the other’. Discrimination diminishes us all. It prevents people — and societies — from achieving their full potential.” He added, “Together, let us stand up against bigotry and for human rights. Together, let us build bridges. Together, let us transform fear into hope.”
Read about International Day of Peace, celebrated September 21, and spend some time watching the Peace Channel
If the town… says that what happens to the smallest minority, happens to us all; and we will not stand by and permit that to continue, the whole community is strengthened and relationships are built up. All kinds of wonderful and surprising fruits will come from stepping up to this issue.
Read the full article, Three Guiding Principles When Confronting Hate, on Not In Our Town
The really terrible thing, old buddy, is that you must accept them, and I mean that very seriously. You must accept them and accept them with love, for these innocent people have no other hope. They are in effect still trapped in a history which they do not understand and until they understand it, they cannot be released from it.
from My Dungeon Shook — Letter to my Nephew on the One Hundredth Anniversary of Emancipation
Read the full text here